by Josiah T. Barttlett
Have you and your spouse transformed into one of those couples that you both promised you would never become before you got married?
The couple we’re talking about is something you’re familiar with. The couple that always seems to be bickering. The one where it’s obvious that everyone is frustrated with one another.
The one where it’s obvious that someone is having an affair.
No one wants to admit it, but this type of couple is the majority. In the Christian church, we have a higher than 50% divorce rate.
I think anyone would agree that what we’ve been doing up to this point hasn’t been working very well.
So what’s wrong?
Why are we still facing an epidemic of divorce in the Christian church when there are all these books, counselors, sermons, programs who knows what else all promising to teach you how to make your marriage succeed?
We’re going to get to that answer in just a second - and we promise that when you finally discover the simple truth that lies at the heart of every single successful Christian marriage, it’s going to completely transform your relationship forever.
But let’s just back up for a second. Yes, I’m going to show you exactly how to access the best resources — many of them free — for Christian couples who want to turn their relationship around, but we need to cover a couple things first.
This is the truth…
Just about all Christian marriage counseling you’re going to try isn’t going to work.
But it gets even worse. What we’ve learned in all our years of working with thousands of couples is that, almost without exception, traditional marriage counseling actually does more harm than good.
We understand that it won’t be pleasant for a lot of you to hear that. It’s more than likely that you’ve tried things like the “wife should submit to the husband” system, or other traditional advice. Maybe you’ve even given a shot to the “husband is servant leader plan.”
But still nothing seems to work.
We were rushing headlong towards divorce 14 years ago. And although we followed all of the traditional advice, we were still headed down the slippery road to a failed marriage and ultimately divorce.
We never could have saved our marriage and become the happy couple we are now without learning the truth.
The problem is, most of the advice out there for Christian couples has been misunderstood. Many of the things that traditional Christian marriage counselors teach simply isn’t right.
We’re not saying that all of these so-called experts are willfully misinforming the church. Most of them probably mean well in the end.
The underlying problem is that they’re working from a set of faulty assumptions.
We need to cover what these dangerous beliefs are, and then we’ll talk about how to get over them and save your relationship.