by Joseph Matthews
Let’s face reality - meeting women on the internet has become one of the fastest and easiest ways to start dating a multitude of women.
In the past, there was a lot of stigma surrounding dating on the internet. No longer. It’s perfectly acceptable to seek out dates on the web.
The only problem is… they’re not usually all that beautiful, are they?
Who hasn’t gone to sites like Match.com and eHarmony, gotten in touch with a girl who had a great picture in their profile, only to meet up with them and find out that picture was from 5 years and 100 pounds ago?
Meeting women on the internet isn’t hard. But knowing how to meet women on the internet the RIGHT way is a skill few men have learned to master.
If you’re not worried about the quality of the women you meet, then just send out enough emails and you’ll get a number of women ranging from hideously ugly to butt-nut crazy ready and willing to date you.
But if you want to get a QUALITY girl, someone who’s mentally stable, attractive, and most of all - fun - then here are some tips you need to know about how to meet women on the internet.
TIP 1: Be Extremely Specific About The Type Of Woman You Want To Meet.
Very few guys ever write in their profile what it is they are really looking for. They either ignore this completely or keep it too general.
Here’s the thing though - if you are extremely clear and specific about the type of girl you’re looking to meet, it will actually GET those types of women to respond to you!
And contrary to popular believe, it won’t scare off too many girls who don’t fit the profile of the woman you want either.
Most women respect a guy who knows what he’s looking for, and they’ll contact you anyway hoping they can “broaden your horizons.”
It’s a very powerful thing to be specific with what you’re looking for in a girl. Don’t be afraid to go into detail about how you want your girl to look and act.
TIP 2: Explain What You’re NOT Looking For.
Telling people in your profile what you’re not looking for can be just as effective - if not more so - than telling people what you are looking for.
For instance, saying something like: “I am NOT into girls who like to be smacked around, so if you’re into abusive guys, please, do not contact me.”
In this instance, you’re actually using what you’re not looking for to communicate to girls reading your profile that you’re not someone who’s abusive, and this implies you respect women and would never hurt them.
But you’re phrasing it in such a way where you’re putting the girl in a position where she has to prove to YOU that she’s worthy of your time, and not the other way around.
This is a very powerful tactic.
TIP 3: Don’t Include A Picture In Your Profile.
This seems anti-intuitive. Most people, and sites, will tell you to include a picture in your profile, and it is true you’ll get a lot more pictures. However, if you are doing the contacting, I’ve found that it doesn’t matter if you don’t put up a picture.
Truth be told, it works out better in a way. Just say you are scared of some lunatic ex that has been stalking you, so you won’t put up a picture. However, if your target is willing to email you, you’ll send over a picture to her. That should generate a response from her.
The key here is to let their imagination fill in the gaps of what you look like, and have the words in your profile be what attracts them to you as opposed to your picture.
This is a great technique for guys who maybe aren’t all that attractive, or are insecure about their looks.
TIP 4: Sign Up For Multiple Dating Sites
Just like you wouldn’t just hang out in one bar or club to meet girls, you don’t want to hang out on just one website to meet girls either. It’s always best to belong to multiple dating websites if you can, because it increases the number of women you can meet!
Here are some of the sites I like to use to meet women on the
internet…
MySpace Match.com eHarmony Plenty Of Fish Yahoo Personals OKCupid.com J-Date Craig’s List
Some of these sites are free, some you have to pay for, but all of them will get you results!
So don’t just limit yourself to one dating site. Go for two or three if you can.
TIP 5: Write Funny Emails
Humor is the most attractive thing you can do online. Writing emails that aren’t the same old “hey, what’s up?” or boring emails like “I noticed you liked blah, blah, blah in your profile, I like blah, blah, blah too,” are very powerful.
And the easiest way to do that is to write emails that are light-hearted and funny.
Sending an email that says something like: “Hey, just wondering how many guys with half-naked pictures of themselves have contacted you today. I’m taking a survey. (Don’t ask.)” can get a girl to respond to you instantly.
TIP 6: Get The Girls On The Phone Quickly
Don’t spend too much time emailing back and forth. People are very different over email than they are on the phone. By the third email, you should be asking for her number.
Once you have the number, call her up and talk to her. This is where you’ll find out if there’s some chemistry there, and if there is, you can go ahead and set up a time to meet.
There is one tremendous mistake you need to avoid - don’t wait too long to get on the phone with her! You need to avoid this situation. If she’s attractive, she’ll have many suitors, and someone will come in and get her before you do.
So make haste for good results.
About the Author:
Joseph Matthews has been instructing guys
how to meet women since 2004, and is widely known as an authority in the subject of confidence building and dating advice. If you want to discover more about how to
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