We’ve all had situations with our partner or significant other in which we mean to say something nice, but it’s perceived as the total opposite. No amounts of back tracking, apologies or explanations are going to fix it. You didn’t mean it the way it was taken, but now you’re stuck with it.

The following are three of the most common “Oh Good Grief” things you might say but probably shouldn’t and how you can recover;

1) “You’re not like anyone I’ve ever been out with”

What you meant to say was “you’re fantastic!”, but what he/she will be thinking is that they don’t measure up to your previous partners. Avoid comparing your current sweetie to your past ones even if you mean to put them at the top of the list. Especially at the beginning of a relationship, your guy or gal wants to believe they’re the first, not the last in a long string.

When the words have already left your mouth, you need to recover, and fast! Start by reassuring your significant other that he/she has left any others in the dust and follow that up with a couple of specific and sincere compliments. Don’t get too wordy and over the top here, you don’t want to make things worse. They need to know that there’s no one else you’d rather be with.

2) “Size doesn’t matter”

I can’t believe you said that! It’s just NEVER okay! Having said that, yes, I’ve said that! And the result was an awkward silence while you try to figure out how to recover from this perceived insult to his manhood.

The thing is that unless your man’s manhood is of an unusual size in either direction, size really doesn’t matter. But no man will believe it. The easiest way to fix this is to quickly, and I mean very quickly, explain what you mean. A little extra attention wouldn’t hurt either.

3) “You got the job? Unbelievable!”

This is only going to be taken as an insult by someone who is insecure. But that’s the thing, most of us are! When you give a compliment it should be, well, complimentary! Something like “Well of course you got the job” is far more of a pat on the back than an expression of disbelief.

When you respond to your significant other doing something great with surprise, they might read that as you doubting their abilities. I know, it’s kind of annoying that they would see if like that, but it’s happened to me and honestly, I think it’s a little justified. You should be your lover’s biggest supporter…not a skeptic to be won over.

This article was written by the writers of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can read thousands of professional dating articles.

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