Questions, questions and more questions! They are the most amazingly simple thing that we can ask when we are on a first date with someone. You just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview! Questions are the best way to get to know someone and show them we are interested in them. On a first date you just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview!
Dale Carnegie in his timeless bestselling book, “How to win friends and influence people” writes about the benefit of asking good questions to show that we are interested in connecting with someone else.
Have you ever been to a party and you’ve been the one asking the questions and doing most of the listening? If you have you will probably attest that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting - funny that! You probably did less that but you got 100% of the credit!
If you are a guy and ask careful questions from a lady, you will often find yourself jumping to last-base, thus saving yourself a lot of legwork trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and listening is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do to anyone.
If you’re a woman and want to pamper a guy’s ego and make him feel super good and wanted, then just ask him lots of questions and then really listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a dangling string in seconds!
Despite the ego-focused side of asking and listening there is a genuine side as well. Because the people who are genuinely interested in someone else and ask great questions are the people who are always popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.
Here’s 21 questions to ask to get conversation moving along. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions - which are always better.
Here’s 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl
1. If you’re a waiter and a customer was super rude, would you spill food accidentally on them or think about doing this?
2. What is you all time favourite book and why?
3. If you could choose to have dinner with 5 people (real of fictional) who would you invite and why?
4. If you could suddenly become the invisible man, where would you go and what would you do?
5. If someone were to make a comedy show about part of your life, which part would they script and what would be found in the script?
6. What was your fondest television character when you were a young child? What was it that you liked about them?
7. If you had a chance to go back in time and do something that you feel you should have done what would that be?
8. What’s the funniest experience in your whole entire life?
9. Have you ever gone on a date with someone who is so much taller or smaller than you, and if so how did you get on kissing?
10. How old were you when you had your first proper date? Did you get to kiss them and if so was it a French kiss?
11. What was the worst lie you have ever told in your life? Did you get caught out?
12. If you instantly turned into a woman just for a day, what would you do with your day and why?
13. If you do not like someone do you show it or pretend that you like them?
14. Which do you prefer the most in a woman - intelligence, a good body or good looks?
Time to get a little more personal!
15. Have you ever had sex in a public place? If so were you seen?
16. What’s the difference between having sex and making love for you and which do you prefer?
17. If you could suddenly change the age you lost your virginity, would you?
18. What turns you on the most?
19. Have you ever been unfaithful to your partner and did they find out? If so, what happened?
20. Have you ever been caught touching yourself sexually? If you did, how old where you and who caught you?
21. Have you ever serial sex - with one person and then been with a different person somewhere else within the same day?
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